CW: eating disorders For as long as I can remember, I've struggled with my weight and how I look. In middle school, I was convinced that I was fat and ugly, even though I was well within the healthy weight range for that age. I wore thick black sweaters and jeans on even the hottest …
Going to bed at night is hard. Not becuase I'm not tired. I am usually wiped at the end of each day. It's not because I have trouble sleeping. I usually fall asleep very quickly and have no trouble staying asleep. (I am a notoriously sound sleeper. I would have slept through a fire alarm …
Two weeks ago, I had decided that I had enough. On Monday, February 15th, I had a conversation with my doctor about why I felt I needed medication for my ADHD. I shared my inability to direct my focus and prioritize certain tasks. I shared how some days I just couldn't work, even though I …
Static. No words. No thoughts. Just static. A constant buzzing, throbbing that echoes, fills my head. My heart is lead, So many things unsaid. My spirit- dead. It’s too loud, Yet all I can do is scream, shout, add to the noise in hopes that something will drown out the static. I’m stuck, eyes trained …
I've been working from home exclusively since March of 2020, and it's a nightmare. Don't get me wrong, there are parts of it that are great. I can work in sweatpants on the couch, get up and grab a snack whenever I want and cuddle my roommate's kitten on breaks. My schedule is also somewhat …
It's been six months since my last blog post. (Well, technically six months and 7 days, but hey, who's counting?) It's not that I didn't want to write. In fact, "write blog post" has been on my to-do list for the past three months. But everytime I would sit down to write, I just... couldn't. …
My recent discovery is that I have needs. Legitimate needs. And I need to make sure they get met.
On the one hand, your first thought might be, “Well, duh. Very insightful, girlfriend. Everyone has needs. For example, everyone needs water, food, love…” Or it could be the opposite, “‘Need’ is a very strong word. Most of what you think you need is really a want.” I would know; I’ve tended to ride these extremes.
However, the fact of the matter is that there is a middle ground–one that deserves our attention. Sometimes I inaccurately frame my “wants” as “needs.” But just as likely, I fear, I dismiss my sincere and legitimate “needs” as only selfish “wants.” And that isn’t fair to myself.
I, after all, am a princess of the True and living God, complete with needs deserving much more than flippant dismissal. I am worth…
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I've hit on this a little bit before, but I've been feeling it a lot recently so I think it deserves more air time. Let's talk about loneliness. Loneliness is something that has been weighing on me very heavily for the past few weeks, and I think it's a huge part of adulthood that isn't …
I always used to pride myself in being self-sufficient. I didn't need anyone else. I could take care of myself. Most of this stemmed from my people-pleasing tendencies and my fear of being a burden. If I never imposed on others, then they would have no reason to dislike me, right? But about halfway through …
Isn't it funny how such good news can make us feel so sick? One of my best friends got engaged a few days ago. Don't get me wrong, I am estatic for her. They are a wonderful couple that works to make each other better, and they have both grown a lot in the time …
Actually Adulting 